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How many sessions will a client need and why therapy sessions must be booked by the express agreement of the client. Written by Trevor Wales Hypnotherapy Solutions.

 


 

New blog added 15th January 2017

 

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#Ethical practice. How many sessions and which enquiries should a therapist work with? 

 

 

My blog today is for the benefit of potential clients and for other therapists. I suppose you could say that I am on a mission really and perhaps expressing a few thoughts, thoughts about how we all as therapists need to represent our industry with the utmost integrity and how clearly some practices alienate client trust and need to be rethought.

 

On Friday, I received a call from a person out of the county, in fact two counties away and as it goes that is not unusual as I work by Skype. 
What was very unusual was that the enquirer told me that they were assessing my services with a view to seeing how I could help a family member. So far, nothing at all wrong with this, but what followed next clearly was.

The enquirer went on to explain that something very complex and rather sad had happened in the family a while ago and that they were calling on behalf of a person who the family thought needed help and they thought therapy is the route to go, I can't say what the issue is for client confidentiality reasons, but it is very clear that there is an issue which has consequences and impacts upon the family as a result of the person in question' behavioural pattern.
My reaction to the enquirer was to ask why the person who needs help was not on the phone rather than a family member who may not have sought permission. Out of common courtesy I listened to what they had to say. 

The enquirer went on to say that because of what the family thought of the seriousness of the issue that the family had pushed the family member into therapy with what sounds like a fair measure of pressure. Of the situation I can see that the person needing help is in a state of denial and there are some straightforward textbook answers for their behaviour and I beleive that if the 'person' comes for help of their own free will, then therapy will no doubt be able to help.
I went on to tell the enquirer that as an ethical practitioner I would be unwilling to take the family member on for two reasons,one of them being the fact that another therapy practice was already working with the family member. I also declined to be involved unless they first contacted me of their own free will. I explained my reasons why which you can read below, 

The single big issue here is that forcing someone to undertake therapy (and this is very different from mental health issues where sectioning and cpn need to become involved if the person is at risk to themselves and others) the issue is that unless the 'person' realises that they have a problem,then therapy is very unlikely to help. What will most likely happen is that the person will have a few sessions and seeing that nothing changes, they will bail out. The first thing which needs to happen is getting that person to understand why they need help and what that the continued consequences of their actions would bring to the family. That is the first step. Once the person can see the 'WHY' and understand it then they will make progress in therapy if that is the road they chose to take.

In therapy, we see this all the time with quit smokers in the therapist chair who are there because they are pressured into hypnotherapy or therapy by a family member and see nothing wrong with what they are doing even though every smoker knows the risk. The therapy is never going to work. It will be a big fail!

Getting back to the enquirer, they went on to tell me that they had found a well respected therapist in Cornwall who the family member had been to see and that after one session of therapy that family member had said that they were not happy.There are several reasons here. One is that there was some difficulty fitting around the clients working life which the therapy practice was apparently unable to accommodate, Saturdays were a problem for the practice I understand.

There may well be other issues such as rapport but that is not mentioned, however, the big single fact that sticks out and shouts is that the family member doesn't want to be there and is in denial over their behaviour and beliefs and it is a big obstacle that the therapy practice will have to surmount, so getting to yes is the most important part to making progress.

If you are a new therapist ,asking the right questions and realising the importance of ethical boundaries are vital because our first duty is to protect our clients both existing and potential and we also dont need to set ourselves or or industry up for disappointment and failure. I said to the enquirer that I would not treat his family member unless they contacted me personally and that we had a good chat before hand. Although the enquirer was somewhat taken aback they understood. A person's behaviour and free will is there own business unless they are putting the lives of others and their own at risk.

Now I know that in my usual style that this is rather a long post and I hope you are still all with me.

The last thing that really annoyed me and I think this is a really important issue for me representing my industry, was the next big problem for the client which I clearly understand why they would feel uncomfortable with. After one session costing over £75.00 he was advised that he would need TWENTY sessions and I took it to be from the enquirer that the person needed to pay twenty sessions worth either in large installments or all at once.

Speaking as a therapist with over a decade's experience, there are some treatment programmes where you know that a certain number of treatments are perhaps most likely and so when I talk to my clients I give them a broad overview, an average of how many sessions they might expect with flexibility as to how many sessions they might need because that is indeed sensible and ethical to my mind.Weight management and quit smoking programmes come to mind here.

What I never do with my clients is to claim that a client's issue will be resolved in a certain number of sessions with certainty. Everyone is different and a person's issue may well be resolved in just a few issues and when that happens that is really great and that is what our profession is all about, helping people change or find resolution in the most efficient and effective way. 
To tell a client they need to have twenty sessions is just plain wrong in my view because no therapist can know that for sure.

Certainly in some case there may well be complex emotional issues that take time to resolve but the journey has to be planned and taken in steps and evaluated at every session to see the progress a client is making. 
Our work as therapists should be solution focussed and for this reason I beleive therapy assessment tools are very helpful which is why I use them.

Clients will be looking at us to help them and not just to relieve them of large amounts of cash and telling a client they need to spend huge amounts of money to be fixed amounts to just that. Clients are not cash cows! They are people with issues and challenges who need our help.

I believe we must work hard as therapists to work in an ethical way that is supportive of our industry and of ourselves. We need to keep in mind why we came into this industry .... to help people. 
We are merely facilitators to help people unleash the power of their own minds and inner resources. 
If a therapist is in this industry just to make huge amounts of money, well it might work for a while but you are in the wrong industry. My professional reputation is very very important to me because it is intrinsically linked to my core values and if any of my clients thought I was just after making money I would be deeply hurt. I just would not ask someone to pay all of that money up front or tell them that is how many sessions their problem leads.There are just so many questions of trust here that are wide open.

My mission as I would hope all therapists mission is, is to help people in the most efficient way. From what I heard from the enquirer it would seem that some therapists are not only doing their practice harm they are harming the industry and should reappraise why they are in the profession and how they work with people

If the person in question at the start of this post,calls me and asks for my help, which I hope they do, I will be very happy to help them but I won't be telling them that they need twenty sessions because I just dont know. 
They may get to where they need to be in a few sessions , they may well take over twenty but the point is the client should not be set up in such a way that they are told they need twenty sessions at the first session. Step by step progress assessment is the way forward. I hope the practice will learn from this because it is clear the client will not be going back as a result of being told with such definite certainty they need to pay for twenty sessions.


 

Relationships and the pain of betrayal

 

New blog added 09/12/16

 

Can therapy help with raw emotions when relationships go wrong be they business or personal? 

Being deceived, betrayed, cheated on is never easy to deal with. Therapy may well help, even though that might be hard to deal with the thought at the aftermath. But in my experience it has helped numerous clients I have worked with. 

BWRT® is a dynamic psychotherapeutic process that effectively has the capacity to desensitise negative neural thought patterns that result in uncomfortable emotional reactions even before the emotional centres of the brain become aware of it. BWRT® allows for a very rapid change of feeling. It could be likened to switching track on a railway line and instead of traveling along the same neural pathway and accessing the familiar uncomfortable emotional response BWRT® allows for a new response to be created. 


You never know what you are going to wake up to on Facebook that is for sure and reading what has happened to a good friend prompts me to write a little. 

The biggest shock in a person's life barring the death of a loved one is a sense of betrayal, cheating or deceit whether that is work or relationships because the sense of loss and betrayal is almost certainly unexpected. It is a game changer for many and one immediately asks where they went wrong or what it is about them that isn't good enough. It is a fairly traumatic experience especially where there is a huge emotional and sometimes financial investment. 

There is nothing quite so bad as finding your partner has cheated on you and it is sometimes hard to beleive you will ever recover and come out the other side intact

Years ago, a business friend of mine had his life ripped apart to losing everything because his business partner stole from the business and was very clever in deceiving an honest trusting guy and this morning I read the shock of one of my mates who's world has been turned upside down. 
There is nothing worse than the betrayal of trust in what was a good relationship. 

Internal company politics and hostile takeovers can leave one reeling with a sense of worthlessness and betrayal, especially in the case of long term service and being dismissed at short notice 


I know some relationships can drive people to separate and do something wayward like the employee who steals because they are badly treated or the partner who becomes unfaithful because of bad treatment, but in a relationship that is largely good on the whole, finding out the hard way is a shock and can turn our own core values and sense of who we are on its head and even worse it can in all possibility change us for the worse too if we are not emotionally strong enough to deal with the situation and allow the sense of loss and lack of emotional recovery to become the driving force, because human nature being what it is we tend to blame ourselves perhaps far more than the other party.


Coming to terms quickly with the situation and regaining our equilibrium is vital but often not easy and hanging on to our core values and sense of identity is important along with identifying any changes we need to make on an inner level. Above all it is so important that we learn from the experience and not let it make us bitter and resentful in the long term as that can change us and may lead to being deeply unhappy with ourselves. We need to let go in order for the new to enter our lives.
This is where therapy can help and BWRT® has been found to be particularly effective in many instances. 

 


Trevor R Wales

 


 

Hypnotherapy can very often be the answer to a lot of difficulties and problems and can help almost anyone .


New Blog added 09th Nov 2016

Hypnotherapy can very often be the answer and help to manage or solve many personal, emotional and relationship problems both simple and complex and also of a highly personal sensitive nature, often solving the problem altogether. Hypnotherapy is often used to help clients successfully lose and manage weight and to stop smoking.

Hypnotherapy can also be used as a very powerful creative personal and business coaching and development tool to help you develop and realise your full potential, for example it is particularly useful for creative visualisation to help with improvements in performance in areas such as success mentoring and in anything to do with business performance, the arts and sports improvement and personal areas such as memory boosting and self confidence boosting.

Using hypnotherapy with clients, a light to moderate trance is all that is necessary and its important to note that you the client are the one who is in control. People are in light trance states many times in their daily lives often without even realising it. For example, when absorbed in reading a book or watching a movie or driving somewhere and not recollecting all of the details of the journey or anything that is engaged with that is something one does without even thinking about the process. Hypnotherapy can be used in very beneficial ways in many clinical applications too and in 2008 a scientist at the University of Liverpool found that hypnosis can slow down the impacts of dementia and improve quality of life for those living with the condition.

Guided hypnosis is a narrowing of focus and concentrating on a specific ideal at the exclusion of all else The experience of hypnosis can be best described almost like daydreaming where you are aware or not aware, perhaps you  have experienced that feeling where someone is talking to you whilst you are falling asleep and you answer quite dreamily. Hypnosis is a bit like that, it’s like having a half aware conversation with your eyes closed.

Trevor helps clients to create the changes they want and helps them to feel a whole lot better in themselves whether it is in their emotional state of wellbeing, managing issues such as anger, anxiety, stress, low self esteem or beating a habit or a fear phobia or simply just improving an aspect of personal performance.Trevor uses therapeutic interventions of Hypnotherapy, BWRT ®, EFT and NLP to help clients find and re-frame the original sensitising emotional events that were the trigger for their problems. During the therapeutic journey it is not uncommon to use a combination of modalities in some situations and so all the therapies that I work with are complementary to each other. 

Finding the trigger and helping the client to believe that they have the resources to create that inner change is a very important step in helping to empower the client to create effective lasting change. It is a very important part of the therapy approach that I use, because dealing with the root cause is fundamentally important to helping the client create their own inner change working with their own inner resources to change the way they think and feel about themselves, removing the limiting behaviour and helping the client to make positive shifts resulting in them feeling much better as the problem is banished

 

 

All Therapy works best when there is good rapport and a sound professional relationship between client and therapist. It is absolutely essential that the client has a high level of personal commitment to the process of inner change. As my clients therapist I will guide the client towards discovering and working with their own best inner resources enabling them in resolving their problems. I will often be in contact with my clients between sessions and  I will  also give my client tasks to undertake in between sessions. This is so that clients become partly responsible for their recovery  

 

Hypnosis gives you the keys to unlock the doors to you leading a much happier life and to create a deeper sense of fulfilment. Hypnosis can open up the doorways of opportunity for you to create better relationships, better success, whether in your personal life or your working life.

 

 


 

A bit about the way I work with Therapy

 

New blog added 09th November 2016

 

 

A few things about Trevor Wales Hypnotherapy solutions

  • Trevor Wales Hypnotherapy Solutions hypnosis and EFT treatments have helped people stop smoking, lose weight, get over fears and phobias, Manage chronic pain, and relieve stress and much more.Trevor has clients who have recommended him to their friends and who have returned to use his hypnotherapy services to help improve other areas in their lives.
  • Trevor Wales is a fully Diploma qualified hypnotherapist and is covered by full liability insurance.
  • Trevor Wales is a member of several professional bodies, most notably the General Hypnotherapy Register and the Complimentary and Natural Healthcare Council.
  • Trevor is client centred, personable, thorough, caring, and empathic and Trevor helps his clients get great results every time
  • Trevor is an excellent listener, very meticulous in his work and helps his clients with care, dedication and sensitivity. He is very passionate and caring about the work he does and your success and satisfaction are his primary goals
  • Trevor coves all of Cornwall including:-Bodmin, Bude, Camborne, Falmouth, Fowey, Hayle, Helston, Launceston, Liskeard, Looe, Newquay Padstow, Polperro Penzance, Redruth, St Austell, St Ives, Saltash, Truro, Wadebridge.
  • Trevor also covers all of Devon too.
  • In addition to Trevor’s one to one Hypnosis services Trevor also offer treatments both nationally and internationally via Skype video link.
  • Trevor  writes a unique personally tailored script for each of his clients based upon the findings at the consultation.This ensures a targeted therapy approach based upon each clients specific presenting issue and individual needs and is far more effective than the ‘one size fits all’ off the peg hypnosis CD scripts that are available which often do not deliver the results the client is looking for. Furthermore as progress is made it is relatively easy to change and adapt the script to reflect the clients progress and new situation.
  • Trevor also offers personalised hypnosis recordings by high quality audio sate of the art CD,or MP3 download both nationally and internationally.For more information on my CD service see my charges & contact page
  • Trevor’s hypnotherapy service incorporates NLP and EFT where helpful and appropriate.
  • Trevor’s specialism’s are Anxiety issues, Improved Confidence, Fears and Phobias, Improved Performance, Motivation, weight lossstop smoking, stress management and pain management.


How do I work with you? 

I am totally client centred, very patient and caring and I have a highly self-confident disposition both in my therapeutic approach and my beliefs about what hypnosis can achieve for the individual. One of the cornerstones of successful hypnosis treatments is in helping the client get to that place where they too really believe that they can make that change with the assistance of hypnosis.

To quote a favourite proverb or two.

Faith can move mountains.

Whatever you believe, you can achieve. 

They may sound a little hackneyed, but they are universal truths and it's my job to help you with the creation of those beliefs !

For successful hypnotherapy treatment outcomes to take place, confidence and belief in the therapeutic process on the part of both the therapist and client working together are essential alongside an understanding of the nature of the problem and its root cause. I believe these are key essential ingredients of successful hypnotherapy. I have seen this for myself working alongside other professional hypnotherapists over and over again. From the very beginning I work with my clients to help them understand the root causes, how they might have happened and why they may be experiencing the limits, blocks and frustrations that are holding them back from living the life they want to live. From understanding comes progress and the ability to make change, walking from limitation frustration and darkness to freedom happiness and light.

Have you ever noticed how the best and most successful hypnotherapists such as Paul Mc Kenna achieve such successful results with their clients and subjects time and time again? It is because not only is he an expert in his field he is so confident in his own expertise and his ability to put his clients totally at ease and to help them understand how hypnosis works and to help them believe in the possibility of change that his results are so successful……

"The best therapists understand the importance of managing their clients expectations and belief is the cornerstone of helping clients to make the changes they seek"Trevor Wales.Dip Hyp BWRT

 I have a very passionate belief in the power of the mind and what hypnosis can achieve and I am very confident that hypnosis can produce profound changes in people to help them improve their lives. I am very confident in my abilities to help my clients anchor and strengthen their beliefs to make their desire for change a concrete reality. I realised a long time ago just how important it is for my clients successful treatment outcomes to put them completely at ease right from the beginning and project an air of confidence and assurance that strengthen and emboldens my clients belief systems that they have made the right choice in using hypnosis and have come to the right person, a true professional who understands them and who can help them overcome their problems and help them make the changes they want.

As you can see above, Successful Hypnotherapy treatments rely largely in part on the confidence of the client really believing that change IS possible and a therapist who is unable to build that belief in their client and project that confidence is unlikely to be able to help their client make that change. It’s a bit like getting in a taxi where the car is a bit of a beaten up wreck and the driver is uncertain of where they are going and how they are going to get there. You wouldn’t take that journey would you? You want a totally confident professional to get you to where you want to be. You would not put your trust in anything less.
My track record and success rates are very good and I have received great testimonies from my satisfied customers, which you can read here on my success stories link.

So what makes my hypnotherapy treatments deliver results they do?

At Trevor Wales Hypnotherapy Solutions each client is treated as an individual and as no two people are alike, my hypnosis scripts are personally tailored to suit your unique needs, to help ensure the right results for you.

From the outset of the consultation I will gather a lot of information to get to the root of the matter in order to make the best decisions as to how best to treat you so you can get the results you want. So you can expect quite a lot of questions and suggestions. This is because occasionally some clients come along who have other deeper issues which need resolving first before we can start working with the main suggestion therapy for it to be successfully accepted. Just like an onion we all have many different layers.

Another very significant factor which determines whether hypnotherapy will be delivered with maximum effectiveness so that the client gets the results they want is that the right type of hypnotic induction style needs to be established during the consultation. During this session I assess each client's basic personality profile to decide which style of hypnotic induction technique I will use that will yield the best treatment results for you.

I use a personality profiling technique pioneered by one of the UK's leading hypnotherapy and psychotherapy trainers, Terence Watts. His groundbreaking research and subsequent book, 'Warrior, Settlers and Nomads', establishes the fact that as no two people are alike, a totally unique induction style for each person is required to deliver the most effective result. Using this targeted method of hypnotic induction is one of the main reasons that my hypnotherapy treatments are so successful.

A person who is quite analytical and has difficulty in letting go control needs a completely different approach from the person who is quite flamboyant and outgoing as does the person who is very easy going and likes to be liked. If you want to know more you can take your own personality test by clicking on the link here and spending a few minutes answering some questions about yourself. The results may Surprise you!

I also incorporate NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and EFT (Emotional Freedom Therapy) into my treatment services which are highly recognized therapy tools which compliment Hypnotherapy treatments very well, giving me greater diversity in the treatments which I can offer my clients to help them on their individual journeys to successful life change. All of this ensures you the customer, that you will always receive the very best level of effective Hypnotherapy treatments. I hope I can look forward to helping with whatever it is that you would like to achieve.

 

 


 

 
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