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When therapy is a no no because the timing isn't right .

 
New blog added 19th October 2016
 
 

Situations where therapy is not a good idea.

 

 

 As therapists we have an ethical and moral obligation to our clients to carefully weigh up what is in their best interests which sometimes may well see us turning clients away. It is better to give the right advice than set someone up for high expectation and failure with all of the possible harm that those emotions can do.

 

 

Yesterday I took an enquiry from a parent who wondered if therapy could help their 16 year old to prepare themselves for a maths exam. On the face of it, the enquiry, without more background information seems a reasonable idea with firm possibilities.I say 'possibilities' with some reservations because there needs to be far more information gathered before processing whether it would be appropriate or not to use therapy to help improve self confidence for example, because ability needs to taken into account too. Now treating for anxiety is another issue altogether.

After gathering the information I put it to the the parent that in my view therapy would not be a good idea at the moment. You see the teenager had taken two maths exams previously and whilst academically competent in all the other areas,maths is definitely not a strong point which was evident from the previous grades.
 
The parents enquiry came from a good place of wanting to equip their teenager with the best chances of success and wondered if Hypnotherapy for lowering anxiety and improving confidence might help.Having explained to me that the exam was only a couple of weeks away and coupled with the fact that their teenager was undergoing extra tuition I foresaw a potentially difficult situation developing of ever increasing pressure and of expectations possibly not being met and how that might impact upon their teenagers self esteem. What I explored with the parent was their child's acumen and ability in the subject of maths.
It was clear from the outset that the teenager was feeling pressure which may in all likelihood be compounded by the teachers feedback to the parent about the pupil and how the pupil approaches the subject.
 
Considering the information imparted, the natural direction to take the conversation was to explore if their teenager actually had good ability in maths and it was clear that they struggled hence the need for additional tutoring.
Hearing what I was saying, the parent took my comments on board about pressure and went on to consider whether putting off this upcoming maths exam until next year in order to help their teenager improve over time with extra studies was a better idea as it meant less pressure. "A good idea I think."
 
My deep concern is in equipping someone to beleive they can feel succesful and positive to achive something they do not have the requisite skills for yet is setting them up for failure and disappointment and to not feel good enough.This is potentially a very harmful outcome as far as how that person may well view themselves.
Whether we think we are "good enough" is really not important as that can set us up for low self esteem and disappointment.
We can be our own worst inner critics and we most likely give ourselves a harder time than other people's views of us. The idea of being "good enough" is often judgemental in a negative sense whether it comes from ourselves or others.
 
What is important is that we try our best with enthusiasm and intent to learn and develop and that we try our best coming from a place of good intent honour and integrity. It is important that we know our strengths and weaknesses and in being honest with those weaknesses if it is something we really want to work on then one can devote the time needed to learn and acquire those skills if that is what is important to us........ But it has to be for us and not to please someone else because in time, if we are not being true to ourselves we may find ourselves in a very unhappy situation of not living our truth.
 

How to choose a good therapist


 

New Blog added 26th January 2016

 

When choosing a therapist the best advice I can give to anyone considering hypnotherapy or any other mind based therapy is to choose a therapist with great care and consideration and who is the following:-

(a) properly qualified.

(There is no regulatory law at present in the UK which requires a practitioner to be properly qualified by law and licensed to practice.Anyone can set themselves up as a hypnotherapist with no professional qualifications whatsoever)

 
(b) has public liability insurance and who is upfront about disclosing their professional credentials.


(c) belongs to a governing professional body which means they are bound by a strict code of ethics.

 
(d) choose a therapist who you feel a good rapport with and who you feel you can put your trust in.

 

 


Remember that a good therapist is not about themselves and how clever and brilliant they are and and how they can make you do something and how many people they have put through their practice, its about you, all about you and empowering you to make those inner changes.A good therapist should be empathic, patient, able to listen and work creatively with you and should be flexible enough to help you through resistance, challenges, fears etc. A good therapist should also not be afraid of telling you like it is when necessary and find a way that inspires you to achieve rather than leaving you feeling a failure.A good therapist is all about helping you to facilitate personal change and growth.

 

 


 

New for 2016. Hypnotherapy /BWRT sessions in a beautiful location on the edge of St Austell


New blog added 13th Jan 2016

New for the forthcoming spring of 2016. An alternative therapy location to my current venue in St Austell will be at Pine Lodge Gardens in St Austell. For appointment bookings and enquiries call 01726 69703 or 07740 190261

Set in a 30 acre estate this beautiful location offers a wonderful alternative for clients who might like to have their hypnotherapy or BWRT treatments in this stunning and tranquil setting. 

The site is open seven days a week which makes weekend appointments available and offers free parking,is wheel chair friendly and access to the therapy room is at ground level making it ideal for clients who are unable to manage the flight of stairs at my existing location in town at 10 South street.There is also a cafeteria offering refreshments.The therapy room will be very quiet and discrete and comfortably appointed. It is expected that the room will be ready by early spring. 

 One of Pine lodge gardens very quiet corners .

The beauty of this location is the opportunity for walking and talking therapy in the gardens should the weather and the situation be appropriate. Whether you want to stay inside the comfort and privacy of the therapy room or venture outdoors both options can be accommodated.Pine lodge gardens is very large and there are many quiet corners to be able to sit and talk in privacy.

 

 

There is a very modest increase on hourly room hire charge at Pine lodge Gardens over my existing facility at 10 South street and to offset this each client who books with me will also be entitled to spend some time enjoying the peace and tranquillity of Pine lodge gardens after their appointment  with me on the day, completely free of charge. If  you would like to book your therapy sessions with me at Pine Lodge Gardens sessions are by appointment only and must be booked through me on my contact details and not through Pine lodge Gardens. The garden is an entirely separate business to my therapy practice and do not take any enquiries or bookings for my services at all. Please contact me for all enquiries on 01726 69703 or 07740 190261

 

 

 


 

BWRT and the Institute of Brain Working Recursive Therapy: What is BWRT as a therapy?


New blog added 8th Jan 2016

 

 

‘BWRT®’ stands for ‘Brain Working Recursive Therapy®’, a model of psychology and psychotherapy created by UK professional therapist, Terence Watts, MCGI. It’s a totally confidential method that does not require you to reveal your private information or personal secrets to your therapist and it is carried out in a completely conscious state. It does not use hypnosis or any concepts that might be considered mystical or unscientific - it’s completely logical, practical and down-to-earth, and for it to succeed only needs you to know what you want to change in your life. Only Certified Practitioners have been trained to deliver BWRT® and all have to adhere to a strict ethical code. Find out more at http://www.bwrt.org

There are many different styles of therapy available these days but there is nothing else like this one.There is no other therapy in the world that is the same as BWRT®.

It's totally safe and sometimes needs only a single session to resolve even apparently impossible problems - and  therapy can be conducted with certain issues by Skype or even telephone,so if you have difficulty in travelling or talking in a face-to-face situation, this therapy can still help you - Sometimes, shyness or embarrassment can prevent an individual from improving their life because they just can't contemplate the idea of a face-to-face session with a therapist... But now that fear can be consigned to the past and you won’t even need to travel from your home.  

If you're looking for therapy, whatever your difficulty, it’s highly likely that this amazing new therapy can help to set you totally free from it. This is a thoroughly modern methodology that draws on the latest research into the technology of the brain and the way patterns of thought affect our well being - so if you know just how you would like to be and feel but just haven’t been able to get to it, then BWRT® can help you find it quickly.

Better still, perhaps, you don’t need to discuss intimate details of your life with your therapist unless you want to. All the therapist needs to know is what’s not working in your life and you won’t be asked to talk about your sex-life, childhood, relationships or anything else you would rather keep private. 

It’s not important if you’re just starting out in the world or have already been ‘around the block’ more than few times - no matter what time of life you’re in, BWRT® can help you actually choose the way you want to feel about almost anything. It is a fact that most people shouldn't really have problems. It's also a fact that most people do... But BWRT® means they no longer have to put up with them and 'just get on with it'.

BWRT®.can help you create changes at many levels including anxiety, negative self talk,habits and much more

 

Certified BWRT® Practitioners receive thorough training in this modern methodology and are completely conversant with the techniques needed to work effectively with a great number of human problems and difficulties, including:

•Weight management

•Habits

•Relationship problems

•Stress and Anxiety

•Personal Confidence

•Social Phobia

•Fears

•Generalised Anxiety Disorder (G.A.D.)

•PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

•Depression

 

Picture of a brain synapse- BWRT® makes the  quickest  changes, re-patterning the neural pathways

 

This exciting new cutting edge therapy model of BWRT has been in  use since 2013 and has been developed by Terence Watts, a therapist, teacher, and writer with a long history of creating innovative therapeutic intervention - before BWRT® came Warriors, Settlers & Nomads, Life-Mapper ®, Symbio Dynamics®, M.A.G.I.C! ®, and Broadband for the Brain ®. All of those are still in use by therapists around the World; BWRT®, though represents a major event in psychotherapy and is rapidly growing in popularity - typing 'BWRT' into an internet search engine will show you that!

BWRT® is a very discrete private therapy giving you the power to create your own changes with the help of a skilled BWRT® practitioner


 

My most recent BWRT® story.

I recently used BWRT over the Christmas break with a client presenting with very high levels of anxiety over an exam that they are due to take very soon. This exam is very important as it is pivotal to establishing the security of their professional career in the public sector .

My client embarked upon their chosen career path last year and has made a major lifestyle change in moving from one end of the country to another which is a huge upheaval in itself. So far this person has done extremely well in their various stages of studies and assessments, however, recently,because of nerves ,they have failed the same final exam twice,becoming very anxious during the exam. The exam is an oral knowledge based exam taken in front of a panel of examiners. There is one final exam next week and when I was approached to see if I could help them after a brief discussion I decided on BWRT to help with the anxiety and hypnotherapy for learning and confidence.

My clients anxiety state was a 9 and during the pre talk they presented with a heightened emotional state. In one session of approximately an hour the client who's anxiety levels were very high at the time of starting the BWRT ® process virtually disappeared completely. When asked to access the original emotive state my client was unable to remarking that it was almost as if it has never happened. I did post about this last week , however I was unable to share much information at the time. What follows is an update.

One week later when I went back to work on reinforcement of confidence and learning when my client was asked to test the old emotive state there was still nothing there. They simply remarked again that it is as if nothing has happened and that they still feel very calm and relaxed about the forthcoming exam.The more I work with BWRT ® the more convinced I am that it is a remarkable therapy


Update as of 11th Jan 2016
I am very pleased to report that as of the morning of the 11th Jan I received a message from my client advising me that they had passed their exam earlier in the morning thereby securing their role in their public service vocation. In the message to me my client observed that there was virtually no trace of panic or anxiety whatsoever. It was very nice to receive a message of thanks and I look forward to being able to post a testimonial in my clients own words very soon.
 

As an ethical Practitioner I have professional insurance and am required to keep abreast of the latest developments in the world of therapy - when you consult with a BWRT® Practitioner you are in safe hands. 

 


 

 
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