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How hypnotherapy can help with depression and self esteem issues. A blog about a clients journey from suicidal thoughts to wellness.

 


 

 

 

Suicide is a very difficult and taboo subject to discuss but in it is sadly more and more commonplace  in society these days and affects many people from all walks of life, both rich & poor, the well educated and the poorly educated.

 

There have been various preconceptions generated in the press and media about suicidal personality types over the years and some of those preconceptions were not always helpful seemingly creating stereotypes. However in recent years thankfully those perceptions have changed and most enlightened people understand that what happens to people on their life journeys can create the circumstances that lead to severe depression and suicidal thoughts.

Earlier this year I attended a short course run by ASIST which stands for applied suicide intervention skills training. This course was a very valuable course which looked at a very broad spectrum of circumstances and situations and trained attendees in how to intervene in a suicide situation to keep the person safe for now and moving forwards finding them the help they need.

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As a therapist I work with a broad range of presenting issues but over recent years more frequently people are coming to see me presenting with #anxiety and depression. This year I have worked with three clients from various backgrounds and various parts of the country who when they came to see me and started therapy with me were suffering serious depression and were experiencing suicidal thoughts.  The backgrounds of the presenting issues were  varied, one was relating to long term marital troubles where they could see no way out ,another was surrounding isolation and family troubles and financial problems and another was a long term sense of identity relating to childhood abandonment issues and abusive relationships.  

 

This morning I received an email from a client who I began working with back in July. This person comes from a professional management business background and has gone through some dramatic life changes.  When this person came to see me they had already been suffering from a long term issue of loneliness, low self esteem and self worth and an identity crisis. This persons circumstances had led them to contemplate suicide and to make matters worse their GP they felt was completely unhelpful. That is when they turned to me. The journey in therapy was not always an easy one but slowly and steadily good progress was made and month by month both client and I have been able to see good improvements  using the therapeutic  evaluation tools that I use such as the ‘wheel of life’ analysis tool along with patient health questionnaire and general anxiety disorder scales.  The advantage of these tools is that it gives both client and patient an overview of how things are changing. The most important thing of course is listening to the client and taking on board how they feel and using somatic questioning to determine the quality , validity and depth of those answers which helps the client to really connect with themselves and understand themselves and judge whether those answers or how they feel reflects their own inner truth. The email this morning talks of feeling self empowered, feeling calmer and having a strong sense of self belief where they can step away from therapy and go forward into the world on their terms with confidence looking to lead and not follow and to believe in themselves once again.

 

To receive an email like this is very good leaving me with a very good feeling to have been instrumental through the use of applied solution focussed hypnotherapy to  able to help this person upon their life journey in making significant change and is further testimony to the power of good therapy and in particular hypnotherapy to help create positive inner change, all of this without the intervention of  anti depressants or drug therapy of any kind. 

Hypnotherapy is capable of creating real lasting change in all areas of life not just anxiety and depression.  

For more information on hypnotherapy why not visit my treatment page or give a call for an informal chat to see how you may benefit from hypnotherapy in an area of your life whether its coping with a fear of flying or quitting smoking or improving performance

Trevor Wales Dip Hyp. GQHP. BWRT. GHR . CRSST. CNHC

 

Landline :-01726 69703 Mobile:- 07740 190261

Sailing the stormy waters of life. Are you prepared mentally,physically and spiritually?

 


New blog added 09 September 2015

 

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Ask any sailor about the importance of preparation before a voyage and making good on the course they are sailing and they will tell you their wisdom and why it is so important.

When sailing for a destination one has to prepare both mentally and physically. A sailor will have assessed the weather and tide conditions and consulted charts for tides and obstacles. A decent sailor will have checked the preparedness of his vessel making sure all is well and in working order. Fuel, sails, flares, anchor, life preservers etc.   No sailor will ever set to sea without taking on board a compass, charts and everything necessary for a successful voyage.

Mentally a sailor must prepare for the journey too, making a good plan and having contingencies in place. Whilst sailing the sailor and crew constantly trim the sails and rudder to stay on course. One cannot expect to set the sails and hope that the boat will somehow end up at its destination. Indeed the chances of that happening are very low to zero in fact.  Sometimes an unexpected squall appears from nowhere or the wind drops completely and one can almost end up going backwards especially if the current is strong, strong tidal currents can knock the boat of course as can sudden wind shifts, other shipping can get in the way which may mean avoidance tactics to keep safe and on course...

And so it is in life too. There are obvious parallels which can be drawn in the journey of life with sailing. Plan well, have a purpose in mind, keep focussed. Keep your dream or purpose in mind and enjoy the journey but be prepared for changes. The essentials are a good chart, a compass and an understanding of the territory and the weather. Sometimes a storm may blow you of course and obstacles may stand in your way but just as a good sailor knows what to do and adjusts for the course accordingly, even if that means making for a safe harbour for a while to take a rest and take on necessary provisions and wait out the storm so too do we need to develop these qualities of courage, strategic planning, focus, commitment, determination and tenacity to succeed with our own life goals. The interesting thing is even people who believe they do not have what it takes to develop these life skills can through leadership coaching learn and develop these skills along with  the confidence to integrate them into daily life.

 

 

Using NLP techniques and Hypnotherapy the subconscious mind can quickly integrate and learn these success skills which leads to a more positive confident knowledge base in life skills and a more confident and enriched personality a quality of life.  

 

Trevor Wales Hypnotherapy Solutions 01726 69703 M 07740 190261

 

 


  

New practice locations in Cornwall

 

New blog added 27th Feb2015

  

I have three new exciting announcements to make today with regards to my practice locations across Cornwall.

In St Austell,I will be able to offer my therapy services at two places,Counsellors together CLC,premises at no 1,19,Old Duke Street St Austell PL25 5PQ conveniently located in the centre of town and also at the Healing Sanctuary at the Church of the Holy Spirit, Kings Avenue,which is very conveniently located just a minute or two's walk away from St Austell Railway Station and Bus Terminus. 

 

The therapy room at Counsellors together at  Old Duke Street St Austell. 

 

The premises at Counsellors together offers very easy access with only one small flight of stairs and is very private quiet and discreet. I am really looking forward to working with my clients from this new base. There is also a meeting room with media facilities which will open up the possibilities of training and group therapy sessions.

The Church of the Holy Spirit healing room is at ground floor level with only a slight gradient down into the building through the gate and this will be good for any of my clients who would find having to manage a flight of steps too difficult. 

 

Awaiting picture of the Healing Sanctuary

 

 

The second announcement I am pleased and delighted to make is that I have been able to secure a room at Old Bridge Street Therapy in Truro. This is a fantastic opportunity to work in an established practice with the practice owner Annette, of Annette MacCaul Hypnotherapy. I'm sure that this will enable me to develop my successful business even further and am looking forward to working with Annette to not only develop my hypnotherapy practice, but also in developing other projects we have in the pipeline...
I look forward to seeing my clients in these new locations.

 

 

The Therapy room at Old Bridge Street Therapy Truro

 

 

 


 

Quit smoking. How many sessions will I need?

 

 

New blog added 27th Feb2015

 

 

 

Quit smoking. How many sessions will I need?

 

The most honest answer any therapist can give you is it all depends upon you upon your level of determination and personal commitment and taking responsibility for your outcomes. As therapists we provide you with the tools and we are facilitators to guide and direct you into hypnosis. As long as you listen regularly to the CDs and also exercise an element of willpower too then you stand a very high probability of successfully quitting smoking using hypnotherapy.

The value you put upon your health and the price you are prepared to pay to go to those lengths have everything to do with if you are successful or not however you quit. I've had people in the past tell me that they will only pay £100.00 to quit smoking and expect it to be in just one session and they have smoked heavily for years.  On the other hand I have had people who have done just that and quit in one session. They are almost though exclusively social smokers. I have had clients who have had four or five sessions and sometimes more and quit and they said they would have been prepared to take as long as it took them until they quit. That is personal commitment.

Generally for most light to medium smokers you should expect a consultation fact finding session and at least two to three sessions. Some people, particularly the long term hardened smokers may find they are more resistant to hypnotic suggestion and need more than two or three sessions. The essential thing for client and therapist to have an understanding of is uncovering my clients ‘WHY’ to pave the way for successful therapy. I usually find out at the outset what the persons WHY for smoking is, however, some people may not realise why they have a compulsive habitual need to smoke. They may smoke because of lack of self esteem and confidence or through high stress levels due to work/relationship problems. Some people smoke because they believe it makes them more attractive and some people smoke because it’s their way of being in control. All of these the smoker may not even be aware of as it is a deeply buries subconscious behavioural set which needs bringing to the surface.  These are issues which need to be identified and dealt with in their own right before the subconscious mind can accept the suggestions of being a non smoker. Without going down this path first one may only find partial success for a few months perhaps if at all, because this is what is known as a secondary gain and as such it has to be addressed at the outset.

 

The more hardened long term chronic smoker can realistically expect more sessions than two or three. I have had clients in my therapy chair who have been heavy smokers for years and who have needed six or more sessions which have turned out to be very successful. This may cost a few hundred pounds but if successful you’re not only saving money are you?

 


 

 
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